When I started Healthy Living How To a little over two years ago, my intention was always to be more than a food blog. So while the beginning days were about building my healthy recipe database, the past year and more specifically the past six months, I have focused on highlighting other aspects of healthy living.
One of the areas I have grown the most, on my healthy living journey, is what I would call, “succeeding at being me”. And today I would like to share with you my advice for succeeding at being YOU!
1. Stop saying or thinking negative things about yourself.
No really just stop it. And if you do, counter it with a positive, not just one positive, but several. The reason is our brain processes negative and positive information differently. And because of this we seem to hold onto the negative stuff and forget the positive. In the book How Full is Your Bucket, the authors use the theory of the dipper and the bucket. It goes something like this… Each of us has a bucket that is constantly emptied or filled, depending not only on what others say or do to us, but what we we say and do to ourselves. When our bucket is full, we feel great. When it’s empty, we feel awful. Every time we say or think negative thoughts about ourselves (or about others — yes others) we empty a little from our bucket. Like a cup that runneth over, a full bucket gives us an optimistic outlook and healthy energy.
2. Don’t compare yourself with other people.
Pastor Steven Furtick puts it this way, “one reason we struggle with insecurity…we’re comparing our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel.” There is not another YOU in this whole wide world. Embrace who you are. While learning from others’ success and failures can help one succeed, comparing ourselves tends to only reinforce a negative self-image.
3. Find something you like to do and do it over and over.
Each and every one of us has something we like to do. What is it that makes you happy when you do it? Identify the things you enjoy and make time to do them.
4. Have the courage to be different and deal with criticism.
Be your authentic self instead of a people-pleaser. There are always going to be critics, instead of letting criticism drag you down, use it to fuel your convictions. I personally have found life to be much easier knowing and accepting not everyone is going to like me or agree with me.
5. Don’t let the way another person treats you determine your worth.
Dr. Phil was famous for saying “we teach people how to treat us”. If the people in your life treat you in an undesirable way, figure out what you are doing to reinforce, elicit or allow that treatment. Then set up some boundaries and enforce them.
So there you have it, my advice for Five Things You Can Do To Succeed at Being YOU! What would you add to the list?